How Is Your Relationship Life? Have You Been Hurt by Someone You Loved?

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Sammy Egot

Published

May 4, 2024

How Is Your Relationship Life? Have You Been Hurt by Someone You Loved?

Romans 3:23, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, Matthew 22:37-39

The Nature of Relationships

A relationship is a cooperation—a connection where two individuals share, communicate, and work together. A balanced relationship is symbiotic, meaning both parties give and receive mutually. However, because relationships involve two imperfect people (Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”), challenges are inevitable.

Have you been hurt by someone you loved? If so, you’re not alone. Many people enter relationships with great expectations, only to feel betrayed, disappointed, or let down.

The Core of a True Relationship

The most important ingredient in any relationship is not what you say or do but what you are. Words and actions can be deceptive, but who you are—your character, integrity, and motives—will eventually determine the strength and quality of your relationships.

Many people can pretend to love you through their:

  • Words – Compliments and sweet talk.

  • Actions – Doing good deeds with hidden motives.

But what happens when their hidden motives are achieved? Often, their true character is revealed.

How to Identify Fake vs. Genuine People

Prophet T.B. Joshua explained:
“To know if someone is fake or genuine, once they are subjected to the heat of trial, their real personality will surface. A person can only hide their true character until their pride is injured.”

Signs of Genuine Love:

  • It endures trials and challenges.

  • It is selfless, seeking the good of the other person.

  • It is patient, kind, and forgiving. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

Signs of Fake Love:

  • It is conditional—based on what the other person can offer.

  • It falls apart when things become difficult.

  • It hides selfish motives behind a façade of care.

What Should You Do?

  1. Start Your Relationship With God First

    • Before you can have a healthy relationship with others, you must have a strong relationship with God. Matthew 22:37-39 teaches us:
      “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself.”

    • When your relationship with God is solid, His love will overflow into your relationships with others.

  2. Test Relationships by Trials

    • Don’t rush into relationships based on words or actions alone. Watch how people respond during difficult moments—this will reveal their true character.

  3. Rely on God for Wisdom

    • Pray and ask the Holy Spirit for discernment to see beyond appearances. James 1:5:
      “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

  4. Be Genuine Yourself

    • The best way to attract genuine people is to be genuine yourself. Let your words and actions align with your heart.

Healing From Past Hurt

If you’ve been hurt in a relationship, here’s how to move forward:

  1. Forgive

    • Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing the wrong but releasing the pain. Matthew 6:14:
      “If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”

  2. Learn From the Experience

    • Reflect on the lessons God wants you to learn from the hurt.

  3. Trust God to Restore You

    • God can heal every wound and bring new, healthy relationships into your life. Joel 2:25:
      “I will restore to you the years that the locust has eaten.”

Practical Tips for Building Strong Relationships

  1. Start With Love

    • Let love guide your actions, not selfish motives. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 reminds us:
      “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”

  2. Communicate Honestly

    • Be transparent and open in your relationships.

  3. Set Boundaries

    • Protect your heart and ensure that your relationships align with God’s will.

  4. Be Patient

    • Strong relationships take time to build. Don’t rush the process.

Prayer

“Lord Jesus, thank You for being the perfect example of love and faithfulness. Teach me to build my relationships on Your Word and wisdom. Heal any wounds in my heart caused by past hurts and help me to forgive those who have wronged me. Give me discernment to recognize genuine people and courage to walk away from toxic relationships. May my relationship with You overflow into all my interactions with others, bringing peace, love, and understanding. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”

Final Encouragement

The strength of your relationship with others is a reflection of your relationship with God. Start with Him, and His love will flow through you to those around you.

Remember, true character is revealed under pressure. Build relationships that can endure trials, and don’t settle for anything less than God’s best for your life.

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